I have had a frustrating three weeks. A mixture of a virus and problems that appear to have resonated from the spinal injury that caused my early retirement from the police service. The virus thankfully is subsiding, leaving me with the aches and pains from my injury. Hopefully this will be sorted out soon with medical intervention.
Anyway back to whats going on in general. I was pleased that the National Association of Retired Police Officers included my books in their recent publication. For a person such as myself, who found having to finish my career far too early, it feels like a support system that is valued at times, especially when setbacks to health occurs.
In this blog, I don’t want to talk about my books in detail, but i want to throw my support into the new wave of optimism that is driving along the benefits of counselling to those suffering from mental health issues. I doubt that anybody will go through life without the desire or need for help. This could be just a good friend who is prepared to be there for us, or indeed the professional counsellor who has the ability to help a client open up their deep and dark places in their time of need.
When I was more active in person centered counselling, I was amazed how much of a high percentage of clients would tell me what their problem was, only to find after a few sessions, that in fact the real problem was hidden away in the depths of their being. In other words, we have a tendency to blame something or someone other than the real issue. The problem is, that it can only be through pro- counselling that this hidden monster can be found. Beware of people who only have a few days or weeks training. Well meaning, but not qualified to the same extent.
One of the characters in my series, Den Stone, is mixed up. He has strong core values for justice and for the rights of victims above all else. He takes chances for them, he flouts the laid down rules for them, and he puts himself in danger for them. All of this takes its toll, as you will know from the book. There is no such thing as a super hero in reality, but a real man or woman of integrity, who can make super efforts to make things better for others. This can happen in all aspects of life, and I am particularly amazed at those who offer their time as volunteers to care for others.
The point I am making, is that everyone needs help and guidance sometimes. The bigger man or woman, the bravest of them all, is the one who can step outside of themselves for a moment and reflect on how they see themselves with pure honesty, no matter how horrifying or upsetting the process is. If this needs someone to help you, then my advice is to go for it. You will be better mentally and physically for the experiences. After all there is nothing achieved in life, that is more satisfying, than when you do something out of your comfort zone and achieve the required results.
Recently I expressed to an experienced author friend of mine, the difficulty I have in self promoting, for the benefit of selling my books. He told me, “If you don’t sell yourself, why would anyone else help you?” I thought about that, and the same applies to all kinds of personal hurdles. I am sure you can all relate to this in some way.
Another addition to the family has arrived. Baby Oliver Luke Houghton, arrived into our world, which means we have four grand children on the go, two who live locally, and two who live a couple of hours drive away. All very nice, but the problem is, it make me feel old! Especially now it’s my birthday. Which I have decided only to have every two years from now on, to stretch it out a bit.
Anyway so much time, so little to do, and I will catch you soon.
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